Don’t forget the men!

Dec 4, 2025

I wanted to write down my thoughts on so many things today, which is why many of the dates are the same. I did this devotional with my husband, which was really for men, but it helped me in a lot of ways as well in understanding men during grief. But one thing that grieved me the most while reading it was that when a couple loses a baby, it feels almost as if no one pays attention to the man. Yes, the woman held the baby in her body, so her grief is definitely different, but it doesn't cancel out the man's grief. I cannot even begin to understand what a man feels at this moment, but I can share some of what I saw my husband go through. My husband is thankfully surrounded by a great group of men, whom I have been able to witness loving him in a way I have never seen before. If they don't already know, I am grateful for their love for him. The way they grieved for him and checked in on him, I feel, is something not a lot of men get in this situation. Because men are often expected to be the head of the household and are perceived as being strong and assertive, they are sometimes overlooked in this process, as they are expected to keep everything together. I want to remind everyone that they hurt too. As my husband held my daughter and cried out over her body, I was able to see just how much he hurt. He lost his little girl, he loved/loves her so much, and seeing the hurt firsthand made me want everyone to see THE MEN HURT TOO! Please don't forget them!